More Idle Rambling

Again the caveat is that I am pretty new to all of this and it is just my interpretation and blending of ideas. It might not speak to you. I might change my perspective in a year or two but these are my current thoughts on the subject. 

Another aspect of Chalicity is an idea of playfulness. To approach the world with an open and joyful attitude playfulness is easy and simple. This is not a concept unique to shamanism as Buddhism and Daoism often treat this ideal highly as well. I think it exists strongly in a lot of esoteric religions (remember shamanism isn’t a religion, you don’t have to believe anything).

This ability to approach the world seems simple and young children do it all the time. “Why are they playing with the box more than the toy?” Well the toy is obvious what it is, but the box can be anything!! It’s a blank canvas that doesn’t tell you how to have fun. It is just there and you can make it anything you want with your playful attitude. 

This attitude gets socialised out of us slowly but surely. Though it still exists and we sometimes let it out. Usually when we find a particularly good box or an imaginative child to guide us (so much can be learned from children sometimes).

From my current understanding of it a lot of the problem with being free to play comes from judgement and labelling. We absolutely love to label things and put them in their place in our brain they “belong.” Let’s stick with boxes as they are awesome and all I want right now is to find a box and play. Boxes are this blank canvas I mentioned before, but we get socialised into the attitude that boxes contain things, either stuff comes in them, or we put stuff in them to store or worse we take stuff out of it and then the box os just rubbish (one of the greatest most fun things invented, just rubbish once it’s function has been served).

Sorry for that moment of passionate speech.

So playfulness. Let’s try looking at the world with Chalicity, a lens of not judging and labelling the things we see and hear and touch and taste and smell. Let’s just allow the information in. Then play. 

“But how does this relate to polyamory?” I hear you cry. 

“We’ll take that beautiful helmet off your head, pop it on the ground and use it as a comfy seat (boxes are great).”

So I think, for me, in polyamory we already break down those social barriers that tell us how to have a relationship. We say but what if we could do it this way. Essentially we begin to play. This is why there are as many types of polyamory as there are polyamorists, we are all playing in our own special and unique way. We are exploring and discovering ourselves, our partners, our relationships and the world around us. 

Sometimes we might go back into our mind and try and label and judge ourselves and our relationships. Let’s try and remain free though and play and have fun. This is not an easy task and I like everyone else will need reminding of it, but it is something I am trying to practice more and more. 

Stay lovely and loving.