Some Chalicity Talk

Again the caveat is that I am pretty new to all of this and it is just my interpretation and blending of ideas. It might not speak to you. I might change my perspective in a year or two but these are my current thoughts on the subject. 

So one of the key elements, as I understand it at the moment, about Chalicity is that you have to be open and receptive to incoming information but non judgemental as well. I think this is so important for everything in life. 

When information comes in we are so used to rapidly assessing it and shoving it in a box. For instance I see a seagull and it instantly goes into the bird, eats my childrens ice cream box. I can say it is grey, it is probably a young gull. I know it has webbed feet. I have seen gulls imitation rain by stamping on the ground to get worms to the surface. A myriad of other labels I can attach and throw into this sea gull box. 

But what if I saw more. What if all that happened is a saw a hill gliding over the sea, I can register it’s reflection, I can see the shape of the waves, out of the corner of my eye. I can see the edge of the coast line, above me clouds are drifting by, I can smell the sea and food being cooked, I can hear the waves and children laughing, I can feel my clothes on my body and the wind on my skin, I can know the rhythm of my heart beat and breathing. 

If I focus on and label the sea gull then I would miss all this other information and my life would be less rich for it. 

I am no expert on Chalicity as I said but the more I learn from practicing getting into a state of Chalicity the more I want to try and maintain it in all aspects of my life.

So how does this relate to polyamory? Well most people do not wander around in a state of Chalicity. People are focusing on things and labelling and judging them. As polyamory sits outside the “norm” it is subject to often negative judgment and labelling by members of society. 

I think this aspect of Chalicity, to me anyway, is also like the love that I am trying to achieve with polyamory. An unlimited love for all and everything without borders or limits, a box. Without labels and attachment, judgement. By breaking down the boundaries of what “defines” a relationship we are able to look at each relationship for the unique and wonderful experience it is. I am not aging this isn’t possible in Monogamy as each experience is totally unique to each individual involved, but I do think it is easier in a position where one has already begun to break down norms, both of which polyamory and shamanism do. 

Sorry this is more of a short ramble than anything concrete to hang anything off. 

Stay lovely and loving.